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Shopping for cotillion clothes for middle schoolers is no easy tasks! I hope this gives you inspirations and perhaps a place to start!

Cotillion Clothes Ideas for Middle School Girls and Boys

Oct 5, 2021

The 2021 Table Setting Competition was held at the Chowan County Regional Fair on September 27, 2021. Besides the Celebration Ball that marks the end of the cotillion season, this competition is my most favorite etiquette event of the year! 2021 Theme: Water The theme this year was simply “Water”. The contestants were told they […]

2021 Table Setting Competition Results

Sep 29, 2021

woman on phone at table

I have an unpopular opinion. As an etiquette instructor, I’m going to stop teaching my students to leave their phones away from the dinner table. Hear me out… ⁣⁣For years now I’ve been teaching students: “Don’t bring your phone to the dinner table. Leave it in the car or in your room.” ⁣⁣But the more […]

It’s time to STOP teaching our kids: “keep your phone away from the dinner table.”

Aug 16, 2021

I’ve been thinking about this whole left side vs. right side name tag etiquette debate for way too long now. I’m nerdy like that. But it’s ok- I’ve accepted it’s just who I am. Most of my friends still love me. So, instead of just thinking on it, I decided to compile all my ridiculously […]

What side should you wear a name tag? The evidence and the verdict.

Jun 15, 2021

For several years now, we’ve been told, “don’t say Happy Memorial Day.” But as humans, we try to be pleasant and a lot of times the first thing to come to mind is just that: “Happy Memorial Day.” Here are my thoughts on the matter and some useful, polite alternatives for you to consider. It’s […]

Thoughtful alternatives to “Happy Memorial Day”

May 31, 2021

Bear and I demonstrate the simplest way to pin on a boutonniere that stays tight all prom night!

How to Pin on a Boutonniere

Apr 23, 2021

If you’re wondering how in the world am I going to convince my kid to go to cotillion classes, this post is for you! You love the idea of cotillion, maybe you attended as a child. But your middle schooler, on the other hand, is NOT feeling it. And I get it. Etiquette, manners, and […]

How to Convince Your Kid to Go To Cotillion

Apr 9, 2021

I want to show you how this simple technique (named after a garden vegetable) can help your middle schooler stay focused and get more tasks accomplished.

How to Motivate Your Tween or Teen to Focus

Mar 24, 2021

woman in red dress

What is the etiquette around wearing certain colors as a wedding guest? Most of us know white is a color reserved strictly for the bride and it’s off limits for a wedding guest to wear white. But what about other bold colors? Specifically, red. A friend asked me a few months ago if it was […]

I know the rule about white, but can I wear red to a wedding?

Feb 16, 2021

Is it possible to be an over-thanker? It’s important to express your gratitude, but my friend was worried about coming on too strong with a thank you text PLUS a handwritten note. My friend, Loren, sent me a message the other day and asked: What a sweet question, Loren. Send a quick text or email […]

Over-Thanking: Can you say thank you too much?

Jan 25, 2021